{Collab} I tried out “Shafs Beauty” new Organic Skin Care Range….

If you guys follow me on Instagram then you will know how much I have been suffering from dry skin recently.

With the weather being generally grey and dull, my face is drying out, and I’m getting dry flaky and sore patches everywhere.

I’ve not really ever had bad skin, I’ve been one of those lucky people who have gone through life without worrying about dry skin, spots, pimples or dark areas…. But in the last few years things have started to change.

As I age I’ve had to start using make up, to cover up any blemishes or flaws…. But still I refused to believe the ageing game… I refused to use products or look after myself…. I mean I don’t need it? I’ve got great skin….

….but now it’s caught up with me, it’s time for me accept that I am no longer 20 (that hurts) and things will change. In honesty I’m really grateful it lasted this long…. But the only problem now is that I don’t know where to start….

I went into debenhams… And I stood there, not knowing where to go and who to try, overwhelmed with the amount of advice, freebies and general advice I was given by all the stores I went home with nothing.

Speaking to my beautician of 15 years of my problems, she introduced me to her own range of products. Having had recently started her own skincare brand, she gave me a mini facial whilst I was there. ( I mean. Who says no to freebies?)

She went through each product she used and asked me loads of questions about my skin to determine what I needed.( In all honestly, knowing me for 15 years- she instantly knew what I needed.)

And she packed up a bag full of products for me to try at home.

I love the whole look of the products, they are simple and stylish.

Cream Cleanser: It’s a Grapefruit, Lavender and Frankincense cream cleaner. I’ve not been using make up recently because of my dry skin it looks awful on, the dry patches show up more, and it looks patchy, but just using the cleanser made my skin feel more supple and soft. You can smell the hint of the Grapefruit and Lavender on application. Almost smells of fresh laundry ( I love the smell of fresh laundry) and Lavender always reminds me of spa days, I’m sure spas use Lavender to relax people.

Face Mask: Well as soon as you open it you can smell the apple, it smells lush. Granny Smith’s for sure. And the mask goes a long way, I only applied it twice, and it spreads so easily over the face, you only need a tiny amount, which is well worth the money. Also it smells so ….fresh, Apple fresh.

And here’s a selfie to show how creamy the face mask is. The Face mask worked wonders, on removal I already felt like I was washing away the impurities on my face. My face felt creamy and soft, and the fresh smell of the Apple lingered.

Next I used the Brightening Serum, it’s a very concentrated serum, but a small amount covers the face. After applying it- you have to dab your face with your fingers to allow the serum to penetrate into the pores. The smell of the Orange was intoxicating. There’s definately something about the smell of fruits that make you feel…. Healthy, and this was working for me.

And lastly the Moisturiser. A thick and rich consistency. With Geranium extract. Exactly what I needed. Geranium is known to help with the tightening of tissues on the face muscles. On applying this I automatically felt the contracting of the face, especially on my cheekbones, and it felt good. This is by far my favourite of the whole brand.

I’ve now been using Shafs products for just 10 days, and I’m already finding a difference in the overall look of my skin and my face, the flaky dryness has gone, and my skin no longer looks tired or grey. It actually illuminates…

Please do ignore that lump on the side of my face. My tooth problem have left a souvenir for me on one side of my face!

My skin also feels soft, and airy, previously it ached and the dry patches were turning red and sore. These products are a definate winner for me, and will be staying in my new ‘looking after myself‘ drawer…. Honestly my skin hasn’t felt like this in a long time.

For the products heres the Webby: http://www.shafsbeauty.co.uk

(Transparency: I have reviewed these products myself for 10 days and I am giving my honest opinion and review on them.)

Love and regards

M11bna

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“Sticks and Stones may Break my Bones….But Words will Never Hurt Me”

I was 11 or 12 in high school and I remember the vice-head saying this aloud in assembly.

Sticks and stones may break my bones….but words will never hurt me.”

This message stuck in my head because, a couple of days earlier I had received a scrunched up note from someone in my class, with quite nasty remarks, and it was something that stuck in my head. (Up until today!!)

Being of such a naive and young age, it was exactly what I needed at that time, and I was impressed. Yes. That’s right. I was impressed. I wasn’t bullied physically in school. No. But at phases in high school I have had nasty words been said to me. And this quote actually grew on me…. I mean anything is better then physical pain and bruises?! Right?….Right?

But how true is this really?

Emotional pain is usually disregarded because it cannot be seen. If a person is suffering from a ‘broken heart’ for example, we advise a person to get over it, over a couple of days, we may even get fed up of the person dealing with it. Yet with a ‘broken leg’ we are likely to sympathise until the cast is off, and the person is walking again.

So the same can be said of Verbal abuse. We have a tendency to tell people to forget it, and ignore it without thinking of the consequence, the actual emotional and mental frustration the person could potentially be going through. I myself have been told on numerous occasion not to say anything back, because its not good to ‘stoop’ to the levels of others. But as I grow older i’m realising that it is not good to push this aside, especially when it comes to children.

With the younger generation being more cognitively, and emotionally sophisticated than was understood before. Warning signs have to be looked into earlier. Studies have shown that children who have been bullied in school are more likely to struggle later on in life, whether that be in relationships, in the workplace, or mentally within themselves.

The concept of Bullying has been around for years, its nothing new, and in all honesty unfortunately it will be around forever. However bullying for the younger generation is a completely different culture to that of my age. With the uprising of social media emotional bullying is more evident. It’s called ‘Cyber Bullying’. And the worst part of cyber bullying is… That it’s permanent and it has a wide reach. There is a scar that can be found on the internet, and usually accessed by loads of people.

With Social media it is so much more easier to spread a rumour, to share a embarrassing or humiliating picture or video, to ‘tag’, ‘share’ or even comment on a common page- for the WORLD to see. And the worse part is, it can all be done Anonymously. And a child or adult cannot get away from it, they cannot run away home or a safe place. The internet is something we have access to everywhere and is always with us.

Bullying can make a person feel lonely and worthless, they may develop symptoms of anxiety, depression, lack of appetite, or even go into substance abuse all of which has impact on the health of the individual.

So Sticks and Stones can break Bones, but Words can actually be detrimental to mental health. And both forms of bullying should be looked into.

Signs a person is being bullied include :

Random bruises, withdrawal symptoms (wanting to be alone or not talking much), loss of appetite, changes in behaviour (getting more angry at home for no reason), constant stomach aches or headaches. Loss of confidence, missing personal belongings, Mood swings.

A person who goes through bullying tends to shy away to talk to loved ones on most occasions. If you do notice signs that you may think a loved one is experiencing bullying here’s a few helplines that may be useful for yourself and the loved one:

Youngminds Crisis Messenger:

Text YM to 85258

A 24 hour text service for individuals who are experiencing a mental health crisis. Text are free from most service providers.

Childline: http://www.childline.org.uk or 24 hour helpline 0800 1111

If you are 19 or under, then either call in or email the above helpline. Online chatting is also available on the website.

The Mix: http://www.themix.org.uk or 0808 808 4994

For 25 and under, once again can either call or email, or go online for online chat service with specialised staff

Always look out for signs in friends, family or children, if they become reserved, obtrusive, angry, irritable. Sometimes it’s a sign of mental health issues.

And more importantly #saynotobullying.

Love and regards

M11bna

Are we all just Drug Addicts?

Years ago I remember looking at my mother in law’s kitchen cupboard- a whole shelf dedicated to medicine.

My mother in law suffers from mild depression, has varicose veins, has high BP and has suffered a tumour in the brain. My father in- law is a diabetic and has suffered a heart attack, and also has high blood pressure. Both of them together take probably up to 30 tablets a day between them, and most of the tablets are their to counter off the side attacks that the first tablet gives.

A viscious cycle.

I couldn’t understand it. It was beyond my naive mind of reasoning .I would see them both take these medications, up to 3 times a day for years on end, and yet although they are up and about- they have not had any improvements? What is the porpose then? Has their body become immune to the medication? Is it all in the brain? Could the body not function without it? Would they really get worse if they slowely- stopped taking some of the medication?

At my house all I had was a small box and that had Calpol for the Boi, A Paracetamol packet, a Nurofen packet, a Bongela and Cough medicine. And that’s how it had been for years. We use to renew our cough medicine and Paracetamol and Nurofen every time it went out of date because we weren’t using it. Ever.

That was then.

Fast forward a couple of years- I opened the medicine cabinet in my own house. I have 2 shelves full of medication, and yes with my constant suffering of tooth pain- I’m a pill popper.

How and when did this happen?

Well, firstly . The damn tooth, so we have got Ibuprofen, Paracetamol, Amoxicillin, Oragel, Pain out, Clove oil. Then I suffer from menorrhagia – so I have Transexamic acid on standby along with naproxen. I’m also anaemic….and then the hubby has a heart condition- and let’s not get into the details of the medication there.

Not to forget the standard cough medication, for dry cough, for wet cough, night nurse, and every other cough medicine you can think of. Eye drops, milk of magnesia, Iron supplements, Vitamin C, Vitamin D, and now ….. (Breathes heavily) I’ve emptied my whole cupboard out, so I’m going to have to clean up and put it all away.

When did we become these pill popping drug addictive humans? Are we all conditioned to turn into this?

Alternative medicine is becoming popular, and I’m noticing that even doctors are willing to talk about this alongside medicine. I am a big fan of it, but in all reality on most cases it only offers an temporary solution. For example- clove oil for my tooth. It gives me relief for a couple of hours but then I’m back in pain, and the ‘over the counter’ medications work longer and better.

So how do we get away from this drug culture? What Evan is a Drug? Medication is a drug, toxic drugs is a drug. Do alcohol, nicotine and caffeine come into drugs? They are all addictive?

With my condition, how do I Evan get away from the medication that’s prescribed to me?

A Lifestyle change would probably be the best answer, but with our world’s being so fast, it’s so much more easier to have the fizzy drink, than buy a health bar- and cost wise aswell, the foods that are bad for you are cheaper than the healthy food. Also in this fast paced world there’s no real time to cook the healthy stuff, it’s easier to chuck a burger in the oven, and frozen chips in the fryer- then to start chopping up vegetables. Not to say I won’t try. I will and I must.

Also how can a lifestyle change help my menorrhagia? I don’t think it can. So how do I overcome that?

So all in all, can we really get away from medication? With all the health condition we can get as we grow older -it seems impossible.

I’m just a drug addict like my inlaws. And the other millions in the world. Our bodies really cannot function without it.

The funniest thing is, as I was popping yet another nurofen and 2 paracetamol into my mouth for my toothpain , my Boy just said “Mum you have more pills than food!” . My Boy I replied. “Karma is a very funny thing!”

Love and regards

M11bna

Root Canal or Extraction? Please Advise?

It’s been just over 3 weeks now and I’m still suffering. Tooth pain is by far the worst pain ever.

Before I jetted off to India with an infected tooth, I had decided on a Root Canal treatment. As soon as I got back I went in for the procedure.

Having already told you of the many ‘special requirements ‘ that have to be put into place before I go in for my appointment, the dentist had arranged for a slot of 90 minutes for me.

I had been advised that Root canal is the best option for me, and whilst in India I realised it definately is. My two chewing teeth on the bottom left are already gone, and this tooth is a chewing tooth on the bottom right. And whilst eating I struggled a lot because on the left I have no teeth and on the right it was infected so I couldn’t put food their. And my front teeth were being used for chewing which is a long and draining process.

Whilst going through the procedure- everything was great- it was all going perfectly well. The dentist was impressed with me. 2 out of the 3 nerves were already out. I had mentally told myself to think of events in my life that have caused me pain, and this really helped- so I started thinking of pregnancy, labour, people who have hurt me, etc. And it really helped with the process and also sped up time.

Then the x-ray part came. I hate this. But I told myself to think it away. It was a challenge let me tell you this.

After trying for the 6th time,(this is why the extra time is needed) I finally got it in place, and was doing my breathing exercises whilst thinking in my head how I was going to throttle this particuler person I’m not fond of. (I promise you it’s not my dentist. I love her for real,… And It works. Trust me!) And guess what…

Just my luck…. The x-ray machine was not working. She tried 3 times, whilst I kept picturing these murderous events in my head trying not to think of the film wedged in my mouth….. It was not working today!! As soon as she told me this- my gagging started straight away. Bless my dentist as she struggled to get the thing out of my mouth whilst I was retching.

Once It was out, she filled my tooth back in and I was ready to go. I was booked in for another hour appointment the following week.

That was today.

I was feeling positive today, I knew the procedure, just one more nerve and then it’s all done. Right? …

Wrong. After the xray- which I was so much more better at this time (only 2 attempts!) She had trouble in locating the nerve. Although the x-ray is showing a nerve- there is usually a tiny space in between. This space was not showing on the x-ray.

This appointment although booked for an hour took an hour and a half in her trying to get to the nerve.

She had the x-ray checked with another dentist- and Evan tried drilling a bit more to see if she could get to it. But she didn’t feel comfortable in drilling further.

Once again she filled it all back up and sat me up.

Now I’ve got to decide. I either get the root canal done by a specialist- which means the same process again, but the specialist will know how to remove the nerve. However there is no guarantee that there will be no pain or infection after. She will pass on all my details and get the specialist prepared for my case. This could cost upto £600, but it will save a tooth

Or

I get it removed entirely. And that also by a specialist whom she will refer me too. Cost will be £70, but I will be left with no tooth- therefore need to consider a bridge if possible or an implant (prices of these not discussed yet)

I was quite confused as to why she would send me to specialist as she had done the last one- so I asked her. Her response was that the trauma that I went through on the last tooth- was not only mine. She went through alot of anxiety and trauma herself, as she didn’t know whether I would collapse, or throw up or Evan worse. And she wouldn’t want me to go through that again, or herself and would rather I get it done by a specialist who may have already dealt with ‘cases’ like myself.

That was a fair comment and I respected her for that.

But now? What do I do?

Root canal is what I definitely wanted doing initially, as I don’t want that gap, but I seriously can’t handle it if I have to then remove it afterwards anyway.

What do I do?

Keep me in your prayers people

Love and regards

M11bna

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Toothpain and 6 ways to relieve it.

I suffer really bad from toothpain, because of my addiction to all things fizzy, I don’t need to tell you the condition of my teeth. (Sure don’t look like the photo I posted!)

In a year I will have 6 visits to the dentist minimum just to have a filling either put in, or Re-put in. I’ve already lost 2 teeth, and I’m sure the one that’s hurting me now is next…..And it’s horrendous. My worst visits in life.

The worst for me is- I am allergic to codeine so for that reason they can’t use the anesthetic with codeine in. And because of my low blood pressure- the other anesthetic ‘Adreneline’ is also questionable as that reduces the BP more- so I could end up collapsing (which has happened twice to me so far)

To top it all off- I have reflux issue- so that means they can’t fully lay me down- and the dentist and practitioners all end up with backpain because they have to work on my teeth in funny angles. I’m surprised they have kept me on.

So a trip to the dentist for me, is like a mini surgery- I have doctors on standby- a pulse reader- checking my heart rate, an ambulance parked outside. It’s crazy because it’s a small procedure, and I feel awful because they have to do this for me (I have to cut out the fizzy drinks!!!)

But I am grateful that they put up with me, and take it all in there stride. Forever grateful. (I promise I will stop the fizzy drinks!)

Toothpain has to be the worst kind of pain after labour. How a single tooth can affect your whole body is crazy. It affects your head, can have headache, feel nauseous, feel heavy eyes, your jaw and ears ache, body temperature goes up and you can have fever, and the irritable mood that comes along does not help either! Not for me or the person on the receiving end.

So I thought I’d share a few tips that I use whilst waiting for my appointment, and yes those couple of hours before the appointment are the longest ones of my life!

Orajel

I only discovered this little beauty like a year ago. Why nobody had told me about this goes beyond me. Use a pea sized amount and rub on to tooth, it numbs the pain down for a couple of hours. And yup it does work. The relief is amazing.

Nurofen and Paracetamol

A must with toothache. A Nurofen (400mg) every 6 hours, and Paracetamol 2 of them- every 4 hours. This also helps relieve the pain for a couple of hours. If you are having this and pain does not subside it’s a sign of an infection.

Clove Oil

Put a drop or two of this oil on to a cotton wool and then put around gums and tooth. This is actually very strong and may feel tingly especially if lips or tongue touch it- but it is a natural remedy used from ancient times, and works well. It numbs down the pain for a little while. Sometimes pain can go away naturally. Alternatively if you have clove in the house- cut up a small piece and wedge between the tooth in pain- crunch down- allow the juices to come out. Wait 3-4 minutes and allow the magic to happen.

Salt and Water Rinse

The most common one . Add salt in warm water and gargle and rinse out. Salt water neautralises acids caused by bacteria- so it there is an infection- it will bring down the pH allowing you to relax temporarily.

Cold Compress

One of the oldest method of painrelief, not just for teeth but all around pain aswell, including bumps and bruises. It works by lessening the blood flow therefore numbing the area around the nerves.

Peppermint Tea Leaves

Use a cooled down used peppermint tea leave and press down on affected area. The herbs in the tea leaves have numbing properties which will help soothe the area. You must make sure it’s cooled down though.

All the above are temporary fixes- so that you can get through the days before your appointment.

I’ve managed to get an emergency appointment as I haven’t slept all night- and all above are not helping.

I’ve just been advised that I have an infection which needs to be cleared- and then I have to consider another removal.

That’s the 3rd tooth now. I’m not Evan 40 yet. Things are not looking good ( officially throwing away all fizzy drinks from my fridge!!)

Please keep me in your prayers. I hate the dentist

Love and regards

M11bna

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