The Virus that made the World Stand Still

I started off this year with a blog stating that “Be selfish, Be You” and in that blog I stated how 2020 was going to be my year, I was going to make changes, I was going to change the world…… yet the world had different plans.

Today we are at standstill, and all because of a virus?! not just any virus, but a beast of a virus who is threatening humankind, and the worst part is….. nobody knows what to do.

At the begginning of the year we all make so many plans, we sit thinking of what we want to achieve, where we want to travel, what changes we will make to better our lives, we evan contemplated WW3 with the issues between Trump and Iran…… but NEVER did we contemplate this.

Im trying to stay positive, Im trying to keep an open mind, but honestly I feel overwhelmed. Im tired of all the conspiracy theories, I dont care if it was man made, I dont care if china make money from it, or if america make money from it, I dont care if shares are low and we need to buy now to be millionaires later, I dont care if its been introduced to wipe out 1% of the world…… All I care about is thats it here and people are going to die, people possibly around me, people I love, people in my family.

so lets concentrate on that instead.

With Wars in countries, with Brexit, with inflation we have people to blame, we have scapegoats, we have our own theories, our own understandings of the processes involved….. Here mother nature has taken over and God/Allah has shown us his power. We are mere mortal souls, no matter how rich, or how poor, no matter how much money you have, no matter how much power you have, no matter Who you are… we have nowhere to go, we have no where to hide. We are in this together…… and we are terrified.

Can I tell you my biggest fear? My parents. Im sure alot of us feel this way…. its hard knowing that should they be infected, we cannot evan hold their hands at a time like this. We cannot go to see them, they will have to suffer alone. And if worse come to worse (and I really hate thinking of this) that they may go to the grave alone…….That breaks me.

Coming from an indian background/community we are brought up being together at all times, families live together, eat together, laugh together and also cry together. So how will we suffer alone? how will we allow others to suffer alone, how will we get through this?. Our whole ethos will change, our upbringing, our understanding of how to live has all come to a stand still.

And still we are singing ‘Happy Birthday’ whilst washing our hands, (*rolls eye*) I did say that I would only put positive things on the blog, and that is still the case, but I wanted to emphasise that ‘Life seriously is not in our control’, what we think, what we plan can be taken away overnight, as it has right now.

The worst is still to come for us in the UK, with the death toll at 177 today, the schools are now closed, places of social gatherings like bars, clubs, pubs and evan mosques are now closed. Yet our borders are still open, a containment by the people who feel they need it is being performed, yet everyone else walks freely.

This will go down in history as the “Happy Birthday” virus and generations after us will laugh that we thought washing our hands was the answer.

Hope that all of you are keeping well and looking after yourselves.

Love and Regards

M11bna

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February in a Nutshell

“January in a Nutshell’ proved to be popular, so I had to do the same again… Thanks to you guys who told me I was hilarious… Ok ok, that’s a lie, not hilarious, just funny…. But google theasaurus states that funny and hilarious are the same, so don’t come at me. Have a word with Google…… And I’ll be just here being hilarious!

One thing I love about February, Pay Day comes so damn quick! Hi five to short months- we only get the one, so hi five to February and now it’s gone, 11 more dreaded long months to go through…until its November and then we complain how fast the years gone…..

So heres what gone on in Febuary, seriously considering its the shortest month of the year, A hell of a lot has happened

1. Storm Ciara and Dennis and Jorge

Weve been hit by 3 storms this month alone! and it doesnt seem to be settling down. The Area I live in hasn’t been affected much (although my fence did break) but other areas are going through the worse of it. Ciara came and went, Dennis decided to come in batches and Jorge is not giving up. The Worst affected area being in West Wales….. Storms are coming and going yet Boris (Johnson that is, although he is considered to be a storm aswell) is yet to be seen.

2. Coronavirus

Is it a moral panic? Is it real? Is it true? Is it lies? Is it man made? What is happening people? A Lot and nothing at the same time.

The number of coronavirus deaths has now reached 3,080, with the death toll in Iran at 66 (the highest outside China). In Italy, 52 people have died, while three have died in France.

What do I make of it, well theres more chance of me dying in a car accident then the Coronavirus, and that’s not going to stop me driving…

Here’s a few facts for you

And here’s a quick prevention guideline

Generally, stay clean, stay domesticated (which you should be doing regardless of Coronavirus) and dont book a flight to China, and I think you will be ok.

Brexit

Boris Johnson has stepped up his game, and got to work more faster than any Politician I know. All for the wrong reasons though, things have tightened up on the immigration front, heres a few changes https://metro.co.uk/2020/02/29/post-brexit-immigration-rules-12324404/.

Plus we going back to blue passports! This is the official stamp. We are out of the EU.

Caroline Flack

…. Gave up her life at age of 40. Such a devastating story and loss of a beautiful person. I don’t know her. I don’t watch Love Island. It doesn’t interest me at all, but I sure do know people who watch it, and its being suggested that the Media drove her to this. Especially The Sun newspaper…….

….. I just cant fathom it, How can someone be so low that they think committing suicide is the option out?

Prayers with her family and friends at this precious time, Also prayers to all the other suicide victims and families. If you do know anyone going through hard time, Please keep an eye on them. A Little Love goes a Long way.

Royal Tea and Jam

Its not the begginning of the new month if I dont talk about my favourite family in the whole wide world.

And guess What! Prince Charles, Camilla, Prince William and Kate came to Leicester!! and I missed them! I so badly wanted a selfie with Charles. That would’ve been awesome! My life wouldve been made, I missed out……Although I do think the Queen would have been ‘Off with my head’. But hey…. I wouldve met her too….

Harry and Meghan have been summoned! They are back to finish off their duties and then its officially a ‘bye -bye’ to them. Although Harry has started his goodbye’s earlier- in Edinburgh he asked to be called as ‘Harry’ and not Prince Harry…. The beginning of the end. ~

Also it has now been clarified that they no longer can use ‘The Royal Sussex’ Brand. The Queen keeps on suprising me. Legend. Absolute Legend!

I must say im looking forward to seeing them, I do think they are a dynamic force, and they do bring alot of drama with them. But honestly would love to see William, Kate, Harry and Meghan together one last time.

Manchester City Football Club

I dont know if this is news or not, but the Boi told me this is big! so im adding it on. Manchester city has been banned from the Champions League for 2 seasons, and also charged with a £25million fine due to breaking financial fair play rules.

What does that mean? I dont have a clue….. Not really too fussed either, but if you want to know more, heres the webby https://www.theguardian.com/football/2020/feb/14/manchester-city-banned-from-champions-league-two-seasons-ffp-uefa

India

War on the streets of Delhi mainly targeted at the Muslim Communities. Im not going to say anything more. This is really affected me. Really really affected me, and I would rather not say anything when emotions run too deep.

Here is a link to find out whats happening https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-asia-india-51612461?intlink_from_url=https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/topics/cqzp3xdyxq4t/new-delhi&link_location=live-reporting-story

Before I end, can I say how deeply ashamed I am of all the celebrities in India, This was their time to shine and make a difference. They are the worst of human beings. They belong on the bottom of the pile. Absolutely disgusted.(told you I’m affected)

Friends Reunion!

Could I be more happier?! Its official, its happening and I am ecstatic!

Cant wait for this !

Love and Regards

M11bna

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…..I got Grey Hair and I Cannot lie…

Ok, so who saw the friends refrencing in the title? Who saw it? Who saw it? Tell me, tell me….

I just got excited. Friends are coming back for one more episode. They are coming back for an hour long episode! did you hear that?…. I’m so damn excited. I Actually jumped when I saw it …… Then I refused to believe it… then I went into Denial…… And then it was all over instagram- and the internet went crazy! And so did I. (Im still jumping)

I’m dead excited? Are you? …. It’s either going to be the best ever, or something that never should have happened…. We won’t know until we see it…. And see it I must!!!

So back to grey hairs. I’m ageing. I don’t like it. My once upon a time jet black locks- look tired, and dull and……. grey. Like my dry skin- I’m having trouble with this ageing thing. Big trouble.

I have two options, like the friends episode, either I’ll embrace it, or I’ll go through some mental episode.. aka mid life crisis… Good thing is you guys will be here with me, to witness it,…. Oh god. Is that Even good?

This post really isn’t about my grey hair, although it is, it really is, but generally more about ageing….. And my grey hair …

I will call it……. Ageing gracefully

No Nonsense Bullsheesh (Kebabs. because I don’t like swearing)

When I was younger I use to wonder why older people were so shrewd, so self centrered, and selfish. Now I’m old(er) I want to be all those things rolled into one! Part of growing older, is also getting wiser. I would say I got wiser alot later than most people in life, because generally I am was a more naive and generally forgiving person. (The thing about studying psychology is, Evan when your hurt, you try and figure out why the other person wants to hurt you, rather than feeling the hurt itself).

Its the lessons in life, and people in life that teach you to become more selfish, self centered and shrewd. Almost like a ‘survival of the fittest’ approach. So my number one motto for ageing gracefully, is taking a ‘ no nonsense’ approach to bullsheesh ( kebabs).

Negativity

Do you sometimes feel low? unhappy? annoyed? generally miserable?….. think about what you were doing before you felt this way. And what it was that made you feel this way. More often then not these feelings come into place after you have spent time with negative people. Once you have recognised a negative person, stay away from them. Always think Positive, and be thankful for all life throws at you. You whole outlook in life will change….. and it will also keep the wrinkles at bay…

Stress

Scientists have found that too much stress can make our hair white, and unfortunately it doesnt go back to black once the stress is gone (now wouldn’t that be cool?) But how can stress be avoided? With lifes trial and tribulations it cant. It really can’t. But there are ways to manage and handle stress, whether its Yoga, Meditation, Power Nap or just switching off all the technology and going for a walk. Do what suits you….. But Do it and Handle it!

Over- Indulgence

Up to the age of 33, I had the flattest stomach ever. Now alongside my grey hair, my dry skin, my temper, my hormones, my stomach was feeling left out- so its joined the ageing team and popped out. I just cannot eat as I use too, without feeling bloated. My diet is awful! always has been, but as Age increases the Diet has to be looked at, not just for the sake of the stomach, the wrong diet affects hair, teeth, skin, health….everything!

Over Indulgences will be kept only for special occasions…. and special occasions start on fridays? right? every friday? No. No. No. Dont do it. Birthdays and Weddings only, ok?! OK?

Mental Health

Theres a medical term for being scared of ageing. Did you know that? its called ‘Gerascophobia’– mainly to do with being lonelier as you grow older and coming to terms with the fact that the body and health can and will change. Im already feeling it. I know im going to struggle with this, because all it takes is for me to feel tired after a shopping trip and I go into melt down. (God help my hubby and kids…. and make them patient to endure me)

So my strategy is to embrace it, and take things more easier, and acknowledge that errands may take longer, illnesses may take longer to overcome, and shopping trips…… well we can go away for a whole weekend and enjoy it instead.

And im going to start all this by…. dyeing my hair. Im thinking BLUE, Blacks abit boring now……… see… mid life crisis fully on way!!

Love and Regards

M11bna

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New Years Resolution. Be Selfish.

Happy New Year to you All. Another year gone, another year to look forward to.

I’m not really a new year’s resolution person, I make resolutions all year round that I don’t commit to. Why wait for New Year’s?

But this year. I’m going for it. And it’s all about me. This is MY Year to be SELFISH.

I’ve been brought up in a house where we were always told to think of everyone’s else feelings first, to block out our own feelings. And to think before we speak. And this has worked for years on end.

But as you grow older you start to realise that their is only one person who is going to look after YOU, and that is YOURSELF. So you have to make the changes for yourself before its too late.

So this year is the year for me to change. This is MY Year to be SELFISH.

SELFISH: ‘Lacking consideration for other people; concerned chiefly with ones own personal profit or pleasure’

From this interpretation, being ‘Selfish’ is not a likeable trait, so why am i choosing to be ‘Selfish?’

Usually a selfish person is termed so because they refused something that someone else probably would’ve had no objection too. Or they chose to think of themselves before anyone else’s needs……. So really all that person is doing is thinking of themselves, their own well being and their own mental health……. And their is nothing selfish about that.

In order to help and take care of someone else, we first need to be able to take care of our self

Their is a reason why people put others before themselves. They want to please people, they want people to like them. They want to gain something from it all at the expense of loosing themselves. And sometimes when you give too much, people expect too much, and so slowly, slowly every time you put someone else needs before your own, your only teaching them that you come second in your own life.

Eventually this can lead to ‘Resentment’ , and having that trait is far worse than being ‘selfish’. So be a little selfish, and give of what you can. There is nothing wrong with a little bit of self-sacrifice, but its best to know how much you can do and give. a Little ‘NO’ here and there will not damage anyone.

Selfish and Self-Love

There is a difference between self-ish and self-love. The two don’t go together. Is it really more important for people to like you, over your own health and mental well-being? And even if you do choose to be selfish now and then, do you really loose the people that love and care for you? After all they love you for who you are. And if you do loose certain people, we’ll frankly you really didn’t need them in the first place (That sounds so selfish! You go girl! First of January and I have already started my resolution).

For your own Mental health and Well being, you need to be able to attend to your own personal needs. So go and fix yourself first, before you fix anyone else, because in all honesty there are not many who will turn up to fix you when you need them.

So before I go on and on, I will end with “This year is MY Year, it’s about Me”. I’m going to very selfishly and unapologeticaly put my mental health first. And if anyone doesn’t like it….

Well tough luck… I’m selfish deal with it.

Here’s to the New Year.

Love and Regards

M11bna